When you’re young, anything seems possible. Whether it’s becoming an astronaut, ballerina or a race car driver, it all falls within your reach and you get so easily excited by it.
You can probably visualise in vivid detail how proud you would have felt when you saved the day as a fireman, a soldier or a superhero. You pretend to be different people and stay open to who you are.
You knew back then that sticks and stones might break your bones but words could never hurt you. You did get hurt sometimes and when a bully teased you or you couldn’t get your own way, you cried. By the next day, you were back swinging and running around in the playground, smiling and dreaming new dreams again.
Then life happened. Time and worry taught you to fear, limit yourself and you slowly became someone that you wouldn’t want to play with. You started playing by the rules that no one ever told you and stopped imagining all the possibilities and believing that you could follow them.
You may not be able to become king or queen of the world but you can still be that person you wanted to be as a kid. You can still see the world with wonder, believe in magic and create it.
What some fail to realise is how much power you have in determining your future and in making your dreams a reality. The fact is, everything you do, the achievements you have had and the person you have become can all be traced back to one thing... choice. You need to make your choices carefully as they will have an impact on your personal life and professional life.
Next time you forget that you’re the captain of your ship, think about the choices that you make every day and the impact they have on your life. For example, do you:
- Surround yourself with positive people or negative influencers?
- Satisfy your needs or try to please everyone else?
- Keep your promises or break your commitments?
- Invest in your future or crave instant gratification?
- Grumble about things or work to make them better?
- Live in the present or re-live the past?
- Accept personal responsibility or make excuses?
It’s your choice; what to think, how to spend your time and who to be.
Making a choice requires more than selecting option A or B. You determine your fate. Some people let things happen; others make things happen. The choice is yours.
By definition, a choice is an either-or decision. Every time you choose one, you are choosing not to take the alternative path. In other words, saying “no” to one idea enables you to say “yes” to another.
Your view can significantly impact the choices that you make. We are blinded by filters that distort our thinking process. You need to be aware of these filters and the impact they have on your decision making.
Back to the point about putting things first or treating things as a priority, if you treat everything on your plate equally, you won’t have adequate time or resources to address the important things. Choices aren’t equal.
Your choices have consequences. Some days you’ll make good choices; other times you won’t. That is life. It is important to accept responsibility for your decisions rather than shifting the blame onto someone else. Accepting responsibility will instantly boost self-reliance and emphasise the importance of good choices.
The future you get depends on the choices you make. Period. No one is going to force you to do something you don’t want to do, even if that is going to a job that you dislike. You could choose to be an honest person, surround yourself with positive people and find a job you love or you could choose an alternative path. The upshot is; you are bound by the consequences of your choices. The tough part is living with them. While some of your decisions have short-term consequences, others will shadow you for life. That’s why it’s important to achieve balance between your short-term desires and your long-term goals.
One of the choices that you make each day is how you distribute your time. We all have 24 hours a day and you start each morning with a blank canvas. You choose what you paint.
--By Lottie Foskett --